What Can Gender Disapointment Result In?These feelings you may have are not to be taken lightly. They are serious feelings and should be dealt with in the same fashion. Gender disappointment can lead to:
- Loss/grief – Although you haven’t actually lost a child, this feeling of loss is very close to losing a child that you did have. If you have dreamed of having a girl and you end up never having a girl, it’s almost like this child has been taken away from you forever.
- Depression or sadness – This loss can lead to sadness or feelings of depression
- Jealousy or resentment – You may find it hard to look around at all the other parents that have the girl or boy you have always wanted
- Guilt – You might feel guilty for feeling this way about the sex of your baby. You need to realize though that you aren’t disappointed in the baby, but disappointed in not being able to follow through with your dreams of having a boy/girl
- Anger towards yourself – You may feel angry at yourself because you feel you should just be happy your baby is healthy and not worry about what he/she is
What Can You Do About Gender Disapointment?What should you do if you have these feeling?
- First of all, you need to know that these feelings are perfectly normal. Just because people on the outside may not understand these feelings or make you feel bad for having them, what you are feeling is okay.
- Talk to your spouse and express what you are feeling. Your spouse may not share the same feelings since their wishes for a child might be different. It that’s the case, talk to another parent you may know that has gone through this same thing. Find out how they managed to cope with their feelings.
- If you cannot come to terms with your feelings and are experiencing depression for an extended period of time, it may be necessary to seek professional help. There is nothing wrong with asking for that help if you need it
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