I dont think I've ever been this hurt or angry, we have had fights but this one hurts more because he doesn't see the big deal. He thinks some half assed sorry should fix it all. For the past few weeks Ive been sick, Im not sleeping properly and he has been working longer hours. The house has been clean, the washing has been done and there has been little he has had to do. He wanted to go out last night and have a few drinks with mates, so I let him. Got home after 1, was mega messy and puked in our yard. I didnt complain just asked him nicely to sleep on the couch as the smell of him was making me gag. He was that out of it it wasnt a big deal. Everything was fine this morning then a friend messaged and asked if we would like to come play poker, Ive been trapped on the house so would like to go. This was all good until we were joking about him being a sook because of last night. Then he was on about how we all always pick on him, we were joking and tbh he is not the only one who cops crap. I dont know how it came about but after that he threatened to make me get out of the car and walk home, to which I replied that its OUR car. Well after that I was told that he pays for it, like everything else, so its his. I didn't know what to say. We have never been like that, there has never been an issue about whos money pays for what. Ive never felt so small and worthless in the 3 1/2years we've been together. I have nothing and I am nothing without him.
"I hope that my child, looking back on today Will remember a mother who had time to play; Because children grow up while you're not looking, There are years ahead for cleaning and cooking. So, quiet down cobwebs, dust go to sleep. I'm nursing my baby, and babies don't keep."
you should def. talk to him about it. tell him how you feel and that you feel worthless. which by the way there is NO WAY IN HELL that you are worthless.
you clean. cook. take care of your child all while growing another one inside you. tell him to try that! and you can go to work where he gets breaks and gets to socialize. and he can have fun with the heartburn or whatever else discomfort you feel.
its best to set him straight but its better to try and do it calmly. wait till everything is ok and set him down and ask if you can speak not yell or fight but speak about your feelings.
I flat out tell Mike that I earn half of everything he makes just by putting up with his annoying ass each day! I told him I put up with so much crap that he needs to ask for a raise!!!!!
Money is one of the biggest arguement starters in any relationship! It shouldn't be though, men just need to get their feet out of their mouths and realize we are equal partners in the family pyramid! Their are days I would love to get away from home and cleaning and kids and goto work..Like Ashley said he gets away from it all just by going to work while we stay home and put up with the real mess!
You need to have a serious sit down with him and let him know how that made you feel..
Deffinetly agree w./the ladies talk to him....me and my husband had one fight like that years ago and I and I nearly lost my mind I started breaking things and I told him oh so this is yours oops and broke a bunch of stuff....
well my husband just walked out and when he came home I made a list of all the things the I do for him and our son,cleaning,cooking,errands ect including sex and I told him you want to yell at me and say its all yours like a hooker then pay me like one...he apologized and said he would never would say that again the messed up part was I was on mat leave and it just hadn't come in stupid men never realize how far they have their foot in their mouth till its comming out the other end..
Sweetie you are not worthless...in fact you are so precious to him he just to blind to realize it..he couldn't make it w/out you...talk to him *hugs*
***SOME OF THE GREATER THINGS IN LIFE ARE UNSEEN..THAT'S WHY WE CLOSE OUR EYES WHEN WE KISS,CRY,OR DREAM...***
I think he is an a** for saying that to you! Especially the walking part!!!!!!! YOur not worthless! Your Priceless!!!!!!!!!!!!! He just doesnt have a damn clue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The way I see it, I stay home so we can save Money, if I was to go to work all of my paycheck would go to DayCare- and most likely some of his. So I "make" money by not working... MY half of his paycheck is because I do stay home and I do the other stuff he doesnt. Watching the kids while he is at work is MY job! Also I put in over time- He gets to sleep when the kids are sick, or even when I'm sick, he sleeps when they are fussy and just wont sleep and I'm up with them, so he can be rested to work. I may not have the house clean or laundry done all the time- that to me is a joint effort, if I was working outside the home it still would be something "we" would have to do.
Tell him to get his skirt out of the way and to put his BIG GIRL panties on and GET OVER IT! AND A REAL APOLOGY IS NEEDED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ( maybe even some jewelry! at least flowers!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
Quote of the Day::"When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better. Maya Angelou
sounds like hangover talk. Ben gets ratty as **** when he's been drinking the day before. Ass. I like playfuls idea of a list of how you contribute to your life together. He probably doesn't even realise it hurt you, so let him know.
May the longtime sun shine upon you, all love surround you, and the pure light within you guide you all the way on.
Umm yes, that has happened in our house. BIG case of foot in mouth from Mitch. I agree with everyone else, big part of it was the hangover talking and the other half was the male stupid gene talking. Wait till hes himself and tell him how worthless he made you feel. If he doesn't get it then stop doing what your doing and see how he copes. Men are just really stupid and talk with their a** most of the time. I have no doubt you are very precious to him and he probably feels like a right taod which is why you got the half a** apology.
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Dont know what to say to him right now. . .
Posted - 11/06/2009 : 01:11:07 AM
